We all know the words to the song. “Jolly Old St. Nicholas lean your ear this way, don’t you tell a single soul what I’m going to say.” The lyrics continue listing the things everyone wants for Christmas. Songs, television, and social media would have us believe that twinkling lights, parties, family gatherings, baking, gift wrapping, and hot chocolate are things we can’t wait to enjoy.
We must talk out loud about the secret we’re only telling Santa or a trusted confidante. Sometimes, the holidays are tough—really tough.
Many of us struggle with our emotions during the holidays.
Let’s be honest; this time of the year can be stressful, mentally exhausting, and overwhelming. Holiday music starts in October, families jockey for who’s spending what day with whom, and our to-do list is three pages long.
According to a survey by the American Psychological Association, 38% of people feel their stress levels rise during the holidays, 36% think the holidays are a competition, and 55% say it’s the most stressful time of the year.
Strategies for bringing a sense of calm this season
So, what can we do to reduce the stress, anxiety, and depression that so many of us feel this time of year?
Say no to prevent getting overwhelmed.
Learn to say no. No isn’t a bad word. It’s okay to tell someone that now isn’t a good time, you’ve got too many other obligations, or that you need to put your feet up and watch “It’s a Wonderful Life.” If saying no is impossible, delegate. Ask for help, and don’t worry if it doesn’t get done. Use this time to relax, unwind and rejuvenate.
Focus on things that bring you joy.
We can’t be all things to all people, and we can’t possibly do everything on that long list. This year, pick the three things that bring you happiness. One of mine would be making sugar cookies with my daughter. She’s now 25, and it’s a tradition that we started when she was in kindergarten. I love our time together, making a huge mess in the kitchen, reminiscing, and talking about absolutely nothing – it is definitely a stressbuster.
Holiday grief and reaching out for support
The holidays can be challenging for those who have lost a loved one. It’s perfectly normal to grieve, and finding ways to honor their memory through new traditions can bring comfort. Adjusting routines to manage emotions and acknowledging your struggles is an important step. While it won’t take the pain away, it allows others to offer care and support during this difficult time.
If feelings of grief become overwhelming and you notice anxiety or depression worsening, don’t hesitate to reach out for help. Asking for support is a sign of strength. Talk to a trusted family member or friend. Reach out for professional guidance. Several organizations provide specific services to deal with holiday blues.
For those in crisis, call 988, the national crisis and suicide hotline, offering free emotional support and resources.
